Abuse prevention:




Things to look for:
Aggression- Somone who can't control their anger, and deals with it by shouting or beating on objects, they would be a likely candidate to be an abuser.

Controlling- They always have to win or have their way, and try to control what you wear, where you go, and who you talk to.

Gut feelings- Never be afraid to trust a hunch, if someone creeps you out, then it obviously ain't meant to be.

Jealousy- Someone doesn't want you to talk to some people for fear you'll leave them, accusing you of things with other people.

Victim of abuse- If they suffered it, chances are they picked up a thing or two from it.

Intoxication- If they are using drugs or drinking, it will amplify any urge to abuse you.

Acting in a sexual manner- If all they can talk about is sex, they can think of little else, and will usually do anything to get you to do what they want.

Sexist behavior- Comments on the weaknesses of the opposite sex frequently, does not see men and women as equals.

Split personalities- Seems sweet and caring one minute, and menacing the next.




How to identify victims of abuse:




Distance- The victim will avoid people, and try to blend into the wall as people walk by.

Vow of silence- Never speaks of their relationship.

Appearance- Their look has changed, either to fit their significant other's ideals, or looks terrible 24/7.

Ouch!- The victim will have several unexplained bruises or cuts, when asked, they usually say something like "We were just playing" or "Oh... Uh, I dunno..."

Activities- They will drop some of their favorite things to do, and their grades will go down (if in school)




How to help:




Be a pal!- This person will need every little bit of support they can get, the very least you can do is be thir friend.

It ain't their fault- Don't blame them for what is happening in their relationship. No one deserves abuse.

I believe!- This person will fear that you wont believe them, they wouldn't exaggerate or lie about such things.

I hear ya!- Listen to what they have to say, and try to be supportive by givving advice, be positive towards them.

HELP!- In some cases, you made need the assistance of another person, or maybe medical help. If they need it, do your best to help get it.

I'm behind ya 100%!- Support whatever they decide, if they decide to stay, they can leave on their own any time, everyone is entitled to a choice.